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Monday, July 26, 2021

I'm heartbroken but trying to let go


I'm heartbroken but trying to let go

This time the story of the man who appeared with the title I'm heartbroken but trying to let go.


Hi admin, I am 28 years old, from college I have a close friend of a woman who is the same age. If you count the closeness between me and her, it's been almost 9 years. We don't have a special status, but we support each other, and care for each other.

If she had a problem, she would tell me right away, crying on my shoulder. And if she wants to go, she always asks to be accompanied by me, when she hangs out with her friends, she comes to me to invite a gathering together.

We often spend time together, such as eating together, watching movies together, etc., for almost 9 years my activities with her are very close and always together.

I did have the desire to have more of a relationship with her, but I felt inferior. I am the child of an ordinary person, she is the child of a wealthy person. If we go, we pay for the costs incurred during hangouts or joint ventures, and often she won't let me spend money.

I also don't want to be paid, I always try to spend money, but she insists that I don't spend money, because she knows I am the breadwinner of the family. I did tell her frankly about my life and my family. My younger siblings are still in school, my parents are just mothers.

I really have the intention that when my siblings are all independent, I want to immediately propose to be my wife. I thought that if I got married and my siblings were independent, maybe I would be calmer. I want to be successful first before asking her to marry.

And she also supports me to be successful, supports me to prioritize helping my younger siblings first before thinking about myself. and I also saw that she had no Lover, let alone a husband-to-be, but it turned out that she was going to marry with another man.

Is it normal for me to be heartbroken? We don't have any special status, but I don't know what she thinks of me. She also knows that I take care of my younger siblings' finances and after my younger siblings live independently, then I will look for a wife. I often tell her that, her response: she said (yes, I will accompany you). What's wrong with what I expect the answer to be?

I was hurt but I realized that we don't have a special relationship status. I also don't know when she had a Lover, because so far her attitude hasn't changed, we still hangout and do whatever we do as usual. She laughed, pouted, spoiled, as usual with me.

Until I got news from one of my friends who got an invitation from her, while I didn't get an invitation, then I confirmed to her, she said she deliberately didn't give an invitation because she wanted to invite me directly.

I was heartbroken, I should have been the first to be told by her that she was getting married. Yes, I may be nothing to her, but she and I are very close. That's all my story. I try to be sincere and I always hope for her happiness even though I'm heartbroken.

Admin Opinion

Hi friends, I understand how you feel. Indeed, one way to heal a broken heart is to be sincere, as you are currently trying. Although it is not easy, but you have to be strong to live it for your own good.

You must always remember, everything that happens, including the journey of your life there must be something special. With your sincerity, hopefully it can pave the way for you to achieve success and add to the smooth running of your business to help your parents and siblings. No need to be pessimistic, there is always a positive side behind every incident.

In the future, if you are close to a woman, maybe the relationship status will be clearer, so there will be no misunderstanding.

For now, what had happened was nothing to think about, nothing to regret. Be strong, focus on the initial goal, help parents, help younger siblings and achieve success.

Slowly limit your communication with her, because after she is married, she has an obligation to guard her husband's heart. I know it's not easy, but I'm sure you can do it.

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Believe me, there is happiness in front of you waiting for you, even that happiness you may never have imagined before (the fruit of kindness from your dedication to your parents and your responsibility towards your younger siblings).

This is my personal opinion about the story that a man told me which I titled: I'm heartbroken but trying to let go.